The Swarm

So, no response to my ad on craigslist, nada, zilch. And at this point it seems unlikely, as I've been pushed off the first page by the swarm of newer ads, ads from men looking to meet women for

discreet fun,
sex in public,
making videos,
stimulating chat,
filling their honey pot,
clever conversation,
long slow foreplay,
oral or just a quickie,
rimming,
talking dirty,
casual fun,
erotic massage,
getting peed on,
wrestling,
a threesome,
getting naked on cam,
toys,
snuggling,
getting squirted on,
an evening of pleasure,
the best sex you can get on a Tuesday night (yes, written on Wednesday. Anyone interested in some day-old sex?),
fun,
walking in the woods,
ruthless fucking,
a lunchtime fuck buddy,
oral satisfaction,
some action,
a Goddess to worship,
making out in public,
some adventure,
following orders,
a bondage partner,
no-strings booty,
good clean fun,
spanking,
face-sitting,
ass play,
panties,
frisky activity,
taco of the pink variety,
hungry kisses,
multiple O's,
at least 2 orgasms by mouth,
satisfying priordial urges,
taking their mind off their life,
phone sex,
flirting,
and even friendship.

It's exhausting, just reading them, just looking at them, just thinking about all that testosterone. What sort of impression does this make on women, and how many women even bother to look? Let alone reply. In yesterday's ads in my locality, men out-numbered women by more than 50:1, I kid you not. I wonder what sort of response those few women get. Probably something like the list above, replete with cheesy promises, bad spelling, and cock shots. Such is the company I keep. Oh, what was I thinking? And did my earnest, carefully-crafted ad come off as pathetic, or just silly? Maybe it's best that no one replied.

This disparity in the number of ads does illustrate the point that men want women far more than women want men. And this difference is what makes femdom possible. As one Domme put it, "He needs everything I have, but he doesn't have anything I want." Best start jumping through hoops, boy, if you hope to get any.

And the disparity in numbers exists within the kink community, too. It's generally acknowledged that there are far more submissive men than dominant women. Many submissive men are submissive in inclination only, and never find a partner to try things out with. And some never even give voice to their desire. I do feel fortunate that in my time in the local BDSM community I found a number of compatible women to play with. I eventually came to think of myself as a successful sub, just for being able to connect. I think I was successful because I took the time to get to know people, was respectful, and above all, avoided getting pushy. These are qualities that I can practice in person, far better than I can on the internet, among the swarm.